Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Get Married This year: 365 Day to "I Do" by Janet Blair Page, Ph.D REVIEW

Forget waiting for Mr. Right You can go out and find "The One" yourself when you follow this plan. Celebrated relationship expert Dr. Janet Blair Page has distilled the very best of her acclaimed dating class at Emory University--the one covered by CNN, FOX, "Good Morning America," and "The Early Show"--into this one-of-a-kind book. She's helped bring thousands of singles true love--and now it's your turn
Your To-Do List This Year:
Today: Get to know "yourself."
Next Month: Figure out what you really want from your man.
Month 3: Learn how to get out of your own way.
Month 6: Take the field and find the right guy.
Month 10: Make the big decision.
Month 12: "Get married "

The power is yours--and with Dr. Page's guidance, you'll use that power to meet and marry your Perfect Guy. From designing the ultimate Spouse Shopping List to getting the right guy to commit, this tried-and-true method gives you the blueprint you need to take charge of your love life and find love that can last a lifetime--in only 12 months or less.

This is a self help book, but in the sense that the author is teaching you as the single woman to make sure you are ready for that next step by following the steps in her book. These steps are broken into interactive Parts and Chapters; such as Know Yourself (Part 1:What Am I Doing Wrong?, Chapter 1),  The Simple Rules of Dating (Part 2:Let The Search Begin, Chapter 7), Connection and Communication (Part 3: The Road to Happily Ever After, Chapter 11). I do feel all the chapters are important. I like appreciate the fact that she not only talks about all aspects of a relationship (what you will not budge not and what you are willing to negotiate/talk about) but also makes it clear that you need to make sure you are happy as you are and with who you are and bring in as little baggage into your next relationship as possible. She makes clear that baggage as in divorce and kids and things of that nature cannot be helped but on the same note that especially kids should not be considered baggage. 
She also has quizzes, questions and very good pointers in this book. I think my favorite part of this book was the tips/pointers for the first date and the dating time table. I know a lot of women who strongly feel that they don't want to wait to put all their cards on the table; that the man needs to know upfront what he is getting into or feel that they don't have the time or patience to give information a little at a time. But the author actually gives do's and don'ts to dating. Such as don't go somewhere where one person knows everyone or most everyone or even some people ( you get the picture ) and the other person doesn't know anybody. After each tip/point, she explains why: This might make the person feel awkward, nervous, they might feel judged, etc. 
The Author also includes other peoples love stories which are fun to read and good lessons
I recommend this book as a whole because the author, Janet Page gives so many good lessons, tips, red flags to watch for (that you may or may not have been aware of). So you go into the dating world/on a date prepared, comfortable, relaxed and knowing who you are and what you want/need. If I were single, this would be a book I would have picked up. I have already paid this book forward to my mother; a divorcee. And she is going to pass it along to my two single sisters.

I received this book from the author

PageJanet Blair Page, PhD, author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to "I Do", is a psychotherapist with more than thirty years of experience in private practice in New York and Atlanta. She taught at Emory University and has been in the New York Times, Glamour and on CNN, FOX, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She lives in Atlanta, Georgia.


Cheryl said...

Interesting, but it seems like you're boiling down a relationship to a recipe.

Farrah from The Book Faery Reviews said...

Interesting...but can it really be done in a year? Seems so quick to discover who one is, understand their wants and needs in a long-term relationship, find the right one to marry, marry, and then in the end hope the rush will last a lifetime. Not that it can't be done...

Elisha German said...

Cheryl- the book was interesting. Very much so. The book did have the "recipe theme" but I am sure like 'diets', it may not work for everyone. But hopefully you will be able to get something helpful from the book.

Elisha German said...

Farrah-that's what she said. I was half joking with my two single sisters that they should try out the book. They were open to the book and what the author had to offer but weren't too keen on the year part. My younger sister said basically what you said. But I think the reason it wouldn't work for her is because it would take her a year to plan the wedding lol.